Jamshedpur: What do children want from parents – the answer is consistency.
Children deserve a little praise for tasks they are asked to do, if they were to lead a happy life.
More so, let us protect our children as they grow up from problems, teach them to solve such problems and this needs a lot of trial and lot of belief.
Parenting is establishing a balance between love and logic while respecting a child’s individual growth.
All such observations were made by counselling psychologist and an experienced parenting counsellor from Kolkata, Salony Priya during a session on Strees- Free Parenting held at the Beldih Club here in Bistupur on Sunday.
The session which saw over 50 participants was organised by the Jamshedpur chapter of Young Indians ( Yi).
” There is nothing like a good parent or bad parent, every parent is trying. We all love our kids and we want them to grow up happily, ” she remarked while addressing the nearly three- hour long session.
She gave tips on parenting and explained how to cope up with children through audio- visual presentation.
She also involved parents in group activity and Q&A session to get their views on child grooming.
The parenting expert divided children into three categories depending on their brain cognitive function.
(1) Visual Learners ( It refers to a mode of learning were students rely on graphic aids to remember and learn. Visual learners can easily visualise objects)
2) Auditory Learners ( A student learns most effectively by listening)
3) Kinesthetic Learners ( perform physical activity to learn something as an active participant instead of passively listening to a lecture or watching a demonstration )
She also stressed on various other important facets of parenting.
Communication & Connection
• Lack of communication between parents and children leads to stubbornness.
• Teach children without making them feel unsafe.
• Develop the habit of talking to your child using sign language and observing their patterns.
• Have eye contact while speaking, use small sentences with simple words and break down complex ideas so children don’t selectively pick words.
Aligning Parenting Beliefs
• Parents must agree on key aspects like:
• Sleeping separately or together
• Going on vacations together or separately
• Allowing outings and giving access to phones
• Teach children how to interact beyond family and handle different people.
• Instill discipline through example, not just rules.
Balanced Approach: Control vs. Coaching
• Your role is to teach skills, not make decisions for them.
• Guide them using a proactive approach rather than reactive discipline.
• Children learn from observing parents – don’t raise your voice, or they’ll mimic it as a way to express power.
• Instead of denying, demonstrate. Instead of telling, ask. Instead of speaking, listen.
Understanding & Supporting Emotional Growth
• Never use negative labels like “hyperactive.”
• Children who speak a lot are often good at multiple languages and picking up rhythms.
• Crying sometimes signals parental inconsistency rather than just helplessness.
• Help them make decisions by gradually involving them, not dictating their choices.
• Recognize their natural strengths and nurture them.
Love, Logic & Trust Building
• Reduce fear, build trust, and be resilient in parenting.
• Children don’t understand the sense of timing (e.g., “kal” doesn’t mean much to them). Instead of forcing, ask why they need something to help them express themselves.
• Give them time to analyze and come back rather than forcing immediate answers.
• Never make promises or statements you don’t mean.
Notably, the session emphasized stress-free, mindful, and consistent parenting by balancing love and logic while respecting a child’s individual growth.
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